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In addition to these published accounts, we have continued to receive emails and personal contact from other young women stating that this also happened to them or that they personally witnessed it taking place. For those who may not be aware of this ongoing problem, the pattern of behavior is more or less similar in each circumstance: Often the girl has a specific personal or family need, or she has a difficult living situation at home.
Bill invites the young lady to work at HQ, usually without any details concerning the job assignment. While working at HQ often in menial tasks, because many of the younger girls have no practical job skillsthe young lady is subjected to awkward emotional advances from Bill, including extremely personal questions about a wide variety of subjects.
In most cases, it takes years before she realizes that what happened to her was highly inappropriate and is classified as sexual harassment or abuse. In the cases in which a young lady has spoken out usually anonymously about her emotional and sexual harassment, it is denied by Bill, who then goes to great lengths to discover who the person is and to manipulate them into silence, either by guilt trips, shame, or by reminding them of financial expenses paid money personally given to them or their family.
We at Recovering Grace have verified this through first-hand reports and copied emails from these young women and their families.
With increased public awareness and pressure, we have hoped that he would self-correct and make necessary changes to his hiring and workplace behavioral policies.
However, we have heard that Bill has denied any specifics of wrongdoing, although he committed to avoid any behavior in public such as hugging women that could give the wrong impression.
However, public behavior was never the issue. Within the last month, we have continued to receive emails that lead us to believe that this pattern of behavior is still taking place.
One email mentioned a something blond attractive girl whom Bill Gothard met while traveling, and he immediately offered her a job at HQ that was undefined as to scope and responsibilities. He never asked about her skills or previous work experience, but just told her repeatedly how beautiful she was, and that God had not made her that beautiful for nothing.
She accepted the job he offered, having no idea what she would actually be doing. Another email was from a friend concerned about a sweet but vulnerable, very beautiful high-school-aged girl whom Gothard had offered a full expenses-paid scholarship to attend one of his programs and then the opportunity to come work with him at Headquarters.
The neighbor described the family situation and the girl in ways that fit the exact pattern Gothard appears to use to recruit his favorite young ladies, especially seeking out those who might be emotionally vulnerable.
Why is this type of questionable behavior still taking place? To our knowledge, the Board of IBLP has not taken any public action regarding this continued pattern of deviant behavior. We understand their personal loyalties to Gothard, but as fellow Christians, they must recognize that this type of behavior or even just the appearance of such behavior is highly inappropriate for any believer, let alone the leader of a Christian organization dedicated to following biblical principles.
What Bill Gothard continues to do to these young women is not harmless, grandfatherly behavior.
It is sinful behavior that negatively impacts these women for the rest of their lives. We call on Bill Gothard to cease denial and suppression of the truth, and to publicly repent and turn from this behavior which is unbecoming to a minister of Jesus Christ.
We plead with him to be willing to humble himself in this matter, and make a public confession and apology to the countless women whose lives he has affected.Gossip is defined as “casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed as being true” with synonyms such as “spread rumors, spread gossip, talk, whisper, tell tales, tittle-tattle, dish the dirt” and in a derogatory sense, “a person who likes talking about other people’s private lives” with .
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